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Let me be honest with you about something most articles on navigating aging & mental health during the holidays won't tell you.

What I've Seen Work

A 2023 meta-analysis in the Journal of Clinical Psychology looked at this exact question. Here's what they found.

When I was in training, my supervisor said something that I still think about: "People don't come to therapy because they're broken. They come because they're stuck." There's a crucial difference.

The Research Perspective

Okay, let's get practical. Enough theory.

I remember my own experience with this vividly. It was a Tuesday — I don't know why I remember that — and I was sitting in my car in a parking lot, unable to go inside the grocery store. Not because of anything dramatic. Just... couldn't do it. If you've been there, you know the feeling.

Moving Forward

A 2023 meta-analysis in the Journal of Clinical Psychology looked at this exact question. Here's what they found.

Here's what the data actually says — and I'm going to be more nuanced than the clickbait headlines. A 2024 systematic review looked at 47 studies and found significant but modest effects. Translation: this stuff works, but it's not a miracle cure. You need to pair it with other strategies.

The Practical Part

This is where things get interesting — and where most generic advice falls short.

The approach I recommend to most clients follows this sequence:

Week 1-2: Awareness. Don't try to change anything. Just notice when it happens. What triggered it? What were you doing? What time of day? Track it in your phone.

Week 3-4: Experimentation. Try one new coping strategy each week. See what resonates. Discard what doesn't.

Week 5-8: Consistency. Take the strategies that worked and build them into your daily routine. Attach them to existing habits (after brushing teeth, during commute, before bed).

Ongoing: Adjustment. What works changes over time. Stay flexible. Give yourself permission to try new approaches.

Look — I know an article on the internet isn't going to solve everything you're dealing with. But if something in here resonated, that matters. It means you're paying attention to yourself. And that's the first step toward feeling better.

If you're struggling, please don't go through it alone. A therapist, a doctor, a crisis line — these resources exist because this stuff is hard, and nobody should have to figure it out by themselves.