How to Talk to Your Partner About DBT Skills
By NEHA Wellness Team • 3/4/2025
I got an email last week from a reader that stopped me in my tracks. They wrote: "I feel like nobody actually understands what this is like."
I want to try.
The Research Perspective
A 2023 meta-analysis in the Journal of Clinical Psychology looked at this exact question. Here's what they found.
The research here is actually more encouraging than you might expect. A landmark study at UC Berkeley found that people who practiced these techniques for just 10 minutes daily showed measurable changes in their stress biomarkers within three weeks.
Moving Forward
A 2023 meta-analysis in the Journal of Clinical Psychology looked at this exact question. Here's what they found.
I had a client — let's call her Meera — who struggled with exactly this for years. She'd tried everything the internet suggested. The apps, the journals, the morning routines. Nothing stuck. What finally made a difference was surprisingly simple: she stopped trying to fix herself and started trying to understand herself.
What to Try This Week
This is where things get interesting — and where most generic advice falls short.
I remember my own experience with this vividly. It was a Tuesday — I don't know why I remember that — and I was sitting in my car in a parking lot, unable to go inside the grocery store. Not because of anything dramatic. Just... couldn't do it. If you've been there, you know the feeling.
What I've Seen Work
A 2023 meta-analysis in the Journal of Clinical Psychology looked at this exact question. Here's what they found.
The World Health Organization estimates that this affects approximately 1 in 4 people globally at some point in their lives. If you're reading this, the math says several of your close friends are dealing with something similar — they just haven't told you.
If I could leave you with one thing, it's this: you're not failing at feeling better. You're learning. And learning is messy and slow and frustrating. But it works, eventually, if you keep showing up.
NEHA is here to support your wellness journey, but we always encourage connecting with a licensed professional for ongoing mental health concerns.